Monday, 2 February 2009

Bell bajao (Ring the doorbell) - Stop Domestic violence

There is this new campaign on TV , which airs public interest messages to urge people to do their bit in stopping domestic violence , by simply ringing the doorbell on any excuse just to make sure the offender gets the message.

The particular ad that caught my attention was of Boman Irani walking up to the door and ring the bell to say
" kya main ek phone kar sakta hoon? (Can I make a phone call?) "
and immediately his cell phone rings in his pocket and he answers to say
"Haan? maine hi phone kiya tha (yeah I had called) "

I was damn impressed by that one.

Most of the people don't make an effort to stop domestic violence when its happening somewhere near them. I know people of both the following examples-
50% of the women out their go on and on and on....about how men are bad, men are that , men are this...blah blah blah. Finally, when there is a wife-beater around, she wants her own man to sit at home and mind his own business than to go over and and put an end to it.
Men either don't want to cross their wives/mums, or they simply don't want to do anything about it themselves.
"It's their personal issues - we can't do anything "

Yes you can...ring the bell.

So simple. You don't have to say anything...just Ring.The.Bell.
Or knock the door. You don't need to get involved in their personal issues.

You just need an excuse and I thought of some (first two are from the ads) to add the insane touch to this post.

The top 10 Ring-The-Bell excuses are...

1)Can I make a phone call?

2)Can I borrow milk?

3)Can you turn down the volume of your TV? I don't like movies with brutality.

4)My son needs help with his homework - what is the spelling for 'police' ?

5)Do you have a hot girl in there by any chance? (Joey Tribbiani from F.R.I.E.N.D.S )

6)I am here to repair your toaster...what?...oh sorry, it says #420, I just assumed its your place, my mistake.

7)Can I use your bathroom?

8)Hey wanna come for a jog? Oh, you don't jog at midnight eh? ok - suit yourself.

9)I was just wondering and I wanted to know, who is our 3rd Prime Minister?

10)Can I play with your dog?

And if he is a really big guy, remember to scram immediately!

Ring the bell - and be a guardian angel!


Anonymous said...

i too really loved that campaign :)

Anonymous said...

Good blog. Its really insane to tell men to stop domestic violence when females initiate and 50% females are abusive to the extent that they threaten to file false rape case if someone tries to stop an abusive female. Have the creators thought of this or they are blind in their gynocentric misandrist rhetoric.

Unknown said...

Glee.. So guys you have awaken to this new sence of responsibility for Domestic violence Huh??? When will you be awaken to the Domestic Violence on the MEN?? For you, when you see a moti Wife hit a Thin Husband with belan in movies, you laugh at it??? Dont you?? Thaz not a domestic violence for you?? Will you BEll Bajao for the fact that 50% of the Domestic violence in a married couple is initiated by Wives??? Did you not hear of Mrs.Rajni Narayan of Australia, who burnt the Willy of her husband. and very innocently said, she "just wanted to burn his willy" . Did not expect this to go so bad. Are you doing something about these as well??? The NCW Ministers say that the WOMAN are not MISUSING the DV and 498a, they are JUST ignorant and need awareness... When will you OPEN your eyes ...

Most men do not go public because they fear a FALSE DV and 498a Case on them. Thanks to the Media for encouraging woman to go ahead with these criminal activities

Ghanta Bajayen kya????

Iceman said...

Chill people , chill... :P
It's a gender neutral post...happy? :)

Iceman said...

And that means, stop flaming!

Unknown said...

hey Ice man.. We cant Flame, its ICE MAN's blog :)//

Its not about flaming. Its about undue attention and advertisement given to completely woman folks. I am not sure if you are married, but if you are not, then you will come to know. You may define this as gender neutral, but is this BELL BAJAO thing Gender neutral?? Can you see ONE atleast ONE ad that shows woman harrassing men???? If not, then how can you say that it is neutral?? You may think it is gender neutral. BUT it is not GENDER NEUTRAL. IT is for WOMAN .. PEriod. And You blogging about it makes you a part of media who is spreading PARTIAL GENDER SPECIFIC ANTI MALE propaganda..

Go On man, Feel proud about it..

Hemanth said...

I was impressed by the Boman Irani Ad and the one by children playing cricket...But what worries me is the aftermath,Will the really brutal people understand it???? Something more has to be done.

Iceman said...

lol...are you married?

havent watched the cricket one...shud-b-gud.

Nothing more can be done. Or else, it will just result in more violence after our intrusion is over with.
(whether wife beats husband or husband beats wife ;)

Anonymous said...

Holy s#%t, Boman.. whatever has happened to you? Do you know what the men are facing at the hands of these modern women? The DV on men is raising to exponential proportions due to these educated women using laws to their advantage filing false cases. Moreover, u advocate to BELL BAJAO, i will appreciate it if it was really gender neutral. How do u know within the four walls, whether husband was hitting wife of wife was hitting husband? For a change, why cant u change the person opening the door is a wife and bleeding husband follows behind wife opening the door? Remember domestic voilence can happen to anybody i.e. men too. So, do not try to be biased in your ad. Remember even you are a man.I want u to be GENDER NEUTRAL.

Iceman said...

Yappaa...people stop it. It;s not supposed to be such a hell serious post!!!

R said...

The domestic violence law in India is the most regressive and ridiculous of DV laws that exist in about 50-odd countries. Going to the police or the courts is simply not an option. So 'bell bajao' is one helluva idea. Generally people are passive to DV because they believe it's someone's personal and domestic matter.

R said...

I know you didn't intend this post to be so serious. :p

Iceman said...

I just didn't want this to be a blame game :|

Unknown said...

Hey Iceman, Why are you promoting something you are not serious about?? You as a responsible citizen are carrying out an action of blogging and people read your blog and get inspired. So you hold the position of being correct. A pen is mightier than a sword. Do not underestimate it.

I am still not sure why are not able to think about the harmful effects of partial non neutral blogging. and you call it "not so serious".

This is not a blame game..YOu will know one day.. The same law will come and bite you one day and then you will be a part of people who will fight for the cause. Untill then u will have no understanding..

Untill then you can be proud of being a man who will work towards WOMAN CENTRIC LAWS IN INDIA..

Kyon saheb?? apne pair pe kulhadi?? ya fir " aa bail mujhe maar""

Give us your home number, when things bite you , will will come and Bell Bajayenge @ your house number.

Untill then , "Get well soon Ji"

Iceman said...

To the new comers on this blog - Welcome.

If you came here for serious stuff, you took a wrong turn somewhere.
There is nothing serious here. I don't take any responsibility in blogging. I blog whatever I like.

You can call me an irresponsible blogger.
You can voice your opinion against.

I don't care. I just don't!

You can voice your opinions here, you are welcome to do it, as long as its within limits.
And if you thought your opinions can change mine,hehe...

Kavya said...

I loved the ad... Its the right thing to do.. Good job guru.... Don give a rat's ass to wat others say!

keep blogging!

Anonymous said...

hey iceman, this is the price u have to pay for fame. psychos wagging their tongue according to will :)

good job btw

you rock.ur the best.dont stop for anyone.


Anonymous said...

@ Men's
Plz Giv your Home address..
i'll come and Ring The Bell!

Unknown said...

Thanks @ Rohit. I would have give you my home address if you had asked me when I was harrassed. Too late mate..
Fortunately somebody rang a bell of the ambulance that saved my life ... for me being a victim of the harrassment of a WOMAN..

I am not against the campaingn all we are saying is .. Understand that even men get harrassed. SO advertise this campaign for the cause of saving men too.. Too bad that people think men are never harrassed.

Its unfortunate you are not able to see the point.

Well. Nobody sees a point unless it happens to them..

and kavya.. Hold on to your horses... fortunately fofr you , you are not a sister or mother of a man who was falsely harrassed on wrong 498a/ DV cases.. So things are looking rosy for you.

This is not a MAN/WOMAN war that we are talking about . it is the the Plea to the govt of india and the citizens to understand the seriosity of the situation when 1.25000 woman were jailed for no reason..

So be gender newtral when you ring a bell. Make sure that you are not electricuted while ringing the bells ..

Thaz it ..

Thanks for letting me express my views @ ICE.....

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Anusha said...

virtual warfield!
but remember to have healthy arguments!India is a democratic country,and everybody can voice their opinions.

Anusha said...

now that we know you were victimised,we do understand your stand on the topic.but you need to realise that women being targeted with DV's been going on for ages,so its held out to the public eye by means of laws,enforcements,security,ad campaigns being targeted with DV,thats not well advocated for until now.maybe it will take some more time and people like you,for our govt to take any substantial steps for DV where men are on the receiving end.

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Anonymous said...

When somebody wakes me up from my sleep by ringing doorbell(bell bajao) for any reason(Donations, Vaccum Salesmen or Jholawalla feminists), I usually do a band bajaa on them. They enter my condo well dressed an go out limping in disheavelled rags and a black eye.

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Anonymous said...

ur blog is now part of a mail fwd buddy
i am reader from before & i was surprised to see ur link in the fwd..

anyway dont worry about the people commenting against the post..

after all they are men who were beaten up by women, u cant expect anything better from these loosers...

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Iceman said...

please don't direct comments at anybody, just make ur point. Thnx for reading and thnx for the support. Please send a copy of that mail to me. If it's interesting.

NOTE for all:
No personal remarks please. Any such further comments will be deleted regardless of whether they are harmless or not.


Everybody here has agreed that even Women are culprits.

Men are also victims. The post and the comments do not take sides.

There are enough comments here to suggest that. Don't say the same thing over and over again.

This ain't an express your anger forum.

If there is anything new you have to say, then please go ahead. Other shouts will be deleted too.

Thank you!

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Silverstreak said...

@all those idiots who actually think men are being ill-treated by women - Are you seriously bringing this up? Sure there are fat women teasing their husbands on TV, but come on, what about the actual real life cases where women are actually beaten up. Haven't you heard of wives getting beaten for not giving their drunkard husbands money for more alcohol? Its too bad if your other half is less than cordial with you, but its simply because you aren't the best spouse in the world. Do you compliment her if she looks nice or if she does something nice for you? Clean your ears, women like that kinda stuff, and if you want her to be nice to you, you gotta be nice to her once in a while!

And its not just domestic violence, it implies indirectly at protecting womenfolk everywhere! I will digress here. Tell me one incident where you heard of men in pubs being beaten up and molested by women. Or when a man got 'gang'-raped by women? I'm not sexist but there's definitely a reason women fall under the weaker sex. I'm not implying that women need to be protected all the time(sure we can take care of ourselves, and that's because we are awesome), but there are times and places where we would be better off with men around us, though now I'm thinking with such members of the opposite sex, that might not be such a good idea.

Atleast the Ring The Bell campaign aims to reduce(note- I said reduce, not eliminate) one kind of abuse towards women. I personally love the ads.

@Iceman -awesome post!

Anonymous said...

This sounds like a matter who is right, at least people are talking about it. this is a good sign...
No major change in society has ever happened without friction. This friction is natural. I agree is DV law is not at its best form. But it can be ammended and re-ammended till everyone feel its fair and till it has reached a foolproof stage - where no woman can misuse it.
There must be a way ! Where ONLY genuine cases will get a hearing !
So men, do you think that would be fair...because im sure you are propogating against the DV act. Surely you dont support Domestic Violence do you? Or am I getting the wrong message? You have sisters too! Wont you like to know that she has some protection inside those four walls? Thats my take. Really want a feedback on my thoughts from you !

Iceman said...

@ Ping
Thank you :)

@ Anon(above)

I'm against DV ONLY! Where do you see me "Propogating" against the DV act?

And I agree with you, which is why I wrote this! :)

Good point!